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I would strongly advise you against attending church separately too. A church isn't just a place you go once a week - it's a community. You and your husband should be a part of that community together so that it can help you grow closer to God as a couple and to avoid the conflicts that BtheYouthGuy pointed out. Also, Genesis 2 talks about a husband and wife leaving their parents and cleaving to each other. As soon as you get married your new family is your priority - not your parents anymore. Your main concern in this decision should NOT be whether or not you disappoint your parents. Your concern needs to be determining what is best for your new family, and I can't imagine a scenario where attending two different churches would be best.

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I think this is something that you and your fiance need to sit down and have a talk about. I would strongly advise that you decide to go to the same church. If you're going to separate churches, that will likely breed greater conflict in your marriage. Which church will you go to for easter? For christmas eve? Which church will you tithe to? One of the things to remember, is that when you get married, your immediate family, becomes your extended family. You and your husband will be your own family, and you will need to make decisions as such. Being involved and working for the church are important factors to consider, but ultimately the two of you need to make this decision in a way that won't cause resentment towards each other.

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First off, I would like to say congratulations on the marriage. There are a few things you need to focus on.
1. Ministry - Does your fiance have a calling? Though the thought may not appeal to you, that should be a major determining factor. God doesn't call just a husband or just a wife into the ministry, He calls BOTH together. That's the strongest support you or him will ever have - each other.
2. Have you prayed about it. Once again, I understand your frustration of not wanting to leave the comfort zone, but what does GOD want? Sometimes we have to come out of the comfort to experience God in His fullness for our lives.
Ultimately it is between you and God (and soon to be husband). God will open the right door if you'll seek HIM for it!