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Nate-Jager

You dont....you suck it up for at Least 5 year. J/k Mike!

Here are some ideas, I would only recomended one, but you can choose which one you like best!

1.Have your wife do it.
2.Record a video and show it the day after you leave.
3.Tell them you messed up and have been dis-qualified from the ministry.
4. Take out an adervitsment on the local radio station.
5. put posters up in their school.
6. pack up and leave in the middle of the night.
7. Fake your death.
8. tell their parents to share the news with them.
9. Take themm all with you to the new ministry.
10. Be honest, and tell them the truth,w/o criticizing the church!

Answered by Nate-Jager 1 year ago

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pjwong

yikes!

Answered by pjwong 1 year ago

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Nate-Jager

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I think you need to re-evaluate your position and realize that youth pastors are reaching teens in a way Pastors such as yourself are failing to do.

I also think you owe this person an apology, You treated him as though he could do no good and as though he has never done any good. You also questioned his calling to the ministry. WOW! thanx, but I'm pretty sure we should leave that one up to God. You also said he should no take the next position lest he "harm" those kids as well. Obviously no good can be accomplished in only 3 years of ministry. oh wait...jesus ministry was only 3 years. Was his a waste as well? You got some major heart checking to do!

Answered by Nate-Jager 1 year ago

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Nate-Jager

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I must say I took offense to William Cody Bateman comments. In fact...I'm not sure I have ever read such an uninformed and ignorant statement. My guess is that you are basing what you said off of 1 or 2 instances that have taken place in your ministry. But to write off the youth ministry all 2 gether, especially to a person who was looking for advice in a situation that you know nothing about was VERY STUPID! What about all the kids that now are in Church because he was willing to invest his time and energy in them. What about all the kids that now are are no longer going to hell when they die...because this youth pastor was willing to show them the way?

Answered by Nate-Jager 1 year ago

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PastorE...

I think you should be honest with them, otherwise they will see through it and be hurt and angry at you and possibly God. My mentor who had been in his position for 12 years was let go by the senior pastor, and he told the kids the truth without saying anything negative about the church or senior pastor. He just told them that the senior pastor had decided to go in a new direction and that he respected that and that they as a group needed to respect that.

Answered by PastorE... 1 year ago

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Tim Sch...

I agree with everyone except William Cody Bateman.

The only thing I'd add is that you should've over-spiritualize it. Like, "God is calling me elsewhere," or, "I really WANT to be here, but I can't ignore what God wants." Stuff like that is fine if it's true, but don't over-do it by placing the blame on God, at the risk of causing the kids to be upset with Him. If it's not true (like, you're actually leaving because the church is unhealthy or something), don't bring God into it at all. Be honest and truthful, but don't put too much of the "blame" on God.

Answered by Tim Sch... 1 year ago

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Mark C

Share with your leadership first, get some people you trust and let them know what is going on. The more adults you have involved the easier the communication will be.

Know this, it's going to hurt them and you, but if God is truly guiding you out of this ministry then He will be the one "picking up the pieces."

Don't make this about you, point to Christ, turn your kids to lean on Him. This ministry we all share is not about us so this can be an opportunity for some of your guys to see themselves grow.

I would encourage you to really explore why you are leaving. Make sure this is truly what God desires.

Praying for you and your kids, man. May Christ be glorified even in this.

Answered by Mark C 1 year ago

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William...

Sadly, this is exactly why youth ministry as a whole - has become an abject catastrophe' in the making...

Want help? Go back to God's word and find out whether you were really "called" in the first place. Where are the elders in your fellowship and what was there counsel?

Then, search out the origins of "youth pastor" and you will discover that it is a recent (circa 1950's) man made position to meet an urban need but has nothing to do with shepherding.

Finally, don't take that next "youth ministry" position lest you, in another three years, harm those kids lives too because of unseen "undeniable circumstances."

Sorry for the frankness but, we older ones have had to pick up the pieces and help those same young people you leave behind.

Answered by William... 1 year ago

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Soulshaper

I agree with Joe 100%, do everything you can to leave the ministry in a positive note. Remember how many other adults will come in and out of a students life and try to make the change positive. Be as honest as possible without being resentful to the church or leadership.
Know that some students will take it hard and personalize it to themselves. Help the students understand that God has called you away and it was nothing they did.

Answered by Soulshaper 1 year ago

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John Byrne

I think honesty goes without saying. Take leadership students and student who have a strong connection with you out one on one or in very small groups to coffee or something. Then tell the group at large.

You need to have more of a reason than "God is calling me to..." That is fine to start with, but you need to explain how. Is his call to support your family part of it? Are there personal circumstances?

Their might be some things you can't share. If that is the case tell them there are some personal things your not willing to share right now but you are trying to live wisely as God has commanded us to do in scripture.

Some might still be angry. That will always be the case.

Answered by John Byrne 1 year ago

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Pastor Joe

Honesty is the best policy and if the HOLY SPIRIT has guided you in another direction then it will be hard for anyone to argue with you. I make sure I have the opportunity to tell them FIRST and not allow them to hear it from another source. Once it is told, it spreads like wildfire!!

Let them know of the awesome memories you have had with them, and remind them that the next youth pastor coming in will love them just as much as you did, but it might be in different ways. Be sure and give then next youth pastor the best opportunity to lead those students. Allowing that to happen means that you need to cut of communication with them and not try and fix the students problems from afar.

Leave the church on a high note and praise them!

Answered by Pastor Joe 1 year ago

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