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How do you address a young man when he begins to act effeminate?
I have a young man (9th grd) in our group that has began displaying effeminate charateristics. I'm not questioning his sexuality, but both my wife and I have noticed a difference in his behavior. Is it something we should address (if so, how) or is it a "phase" that he needs to go through.
In the past, he typically hung out with "the guys", but lately he has been spending a majority of his time with the females in our group. His choice of words, manner of speech, soft game play, and high pitch "screems" are some of his "new" characteristics that have gotten our attention.
I think his dad is present in the home, but is not a regular church attender. In fact, this young man is the only one who comes regularly.
Any advise?
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YES partner with parents, YES help him find his identity in Jesus Christ. YES do not be afraid to refer to a professional counselor. I think catching it/dealing with it early will be helpful to all. Society will help him find his identity if we don't! |
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I think the bigger issue is his attempts to find his identity, so I would say that pointing him towards finding his identity in Jesus would be a good place to start. Usually such behavior is a symptom of inner issues. Also, I would argue that what we consider "manly" is purely cultural and not based in Scripture. Be careful not to expect young men to be your version of "manly" but base it in what the Bible says. If you are questioning his sexuality, I'd suggest working with his folks to find good biblical counseling. |
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Go talk to his dad. Share your concern with him. It's not your place to step into his role as a parent in instilling the Bible. It is your role to partner with his dad in instilling it together. Don't look at it as the door closing on losing the kid, look at it as a door opening for you to enter the house and partner with the family. |
