How do you handle when Pastor's kids have behavioral issues in Youth Group? - MinistryQuestions.com | Ministry questions, answers, advice, and input from other ministry workers

Resolved Question

Votes

Resolved

How do you handle when Pastor's kids have behavioral issues in Youth Group?

I am the Youth Leader for our Youth Group and the Pastor's children are the biggest offenders of behavioral issues during Youth Group. What is the best way to handle this?

4 Answers

In Leadership
- by
- pixiemom
236 Views
3 months ago

Question resolved! You can't answer the question

Answers

0 Votes Talk to the pastor. by Casey 3 months ago by Casey 3 months ago
0 Votes I have a pastor's kid in my youth group and fortunately she's a great kid and doesn't cause a lot of problems. But when there is an issue I need to talk to her parents about, I try to talk to them as I would any other parent. Sometimes I even say things like, "I'm addressing you as a parent right now and not as another pastor." We have a really great relationship, so that really helps. I think one of the reasons pastor's kids often do act up is that a whole different set of standards is placed on them than on everyone else (intentionally or not). Maybe one way to help with that is to be intentional about treating them like any other student, including in how you'd approach their parents about behavior issues. by Steve 3 months ago by Steve 3 months ago
0 Votes Unfortunately not all church cultures have an environment where 'silver spoons' are absent. Instead of really 'dogging out' the pastor's kids, I'd approach it from the perspective of "what is the best way to get to" your kids. As their parent, your pastor should have a good grasp on how his child responds to certain leadership styles. Maybe you have yet to find what engages him/her. by Justin ... 3 months ago by Justin Simmons 3 months ago
0 Votes Talk to the pastor. Do it in a respectful and honest way that is not in public. Tell them that their teens are causing issues, and that attending youth group is a privilege, not a right. Let the pastor know that you want to keep their teens in youth group, but if they are being a barrier to the other teen's spiritual development then their behaviour must change. Treat them as you would any other parent of teens. There shouldn't be a 'silver spoon' for pastor's kids in any youth ministry. Also, make sure you avoid giving parental advice ("This is what I would do....") type statements if you are not a parent yourself. by BtheYou... 3 months ago by BtheYouthGuy 3 months ago

Votes

Talk to the pastor.

Casey

3 months ago

Votes

I have a pastor's kid in my youth group and fortunately she's a great kid and doesn't cause a lot of problems. But when there is an issue I need to talk to her parents about, I try to talk to them as I would any other parent. Sometimes I even say things like, "I'm addressing you as a parent right now and not as another pastor." We have a really great relationship, so that really helps. I think one of the reasons pastor's kids often do act up is that a whole different set of standards is placed on them than on everyone else (intentionally or not). Maybe one way to help with that is to be intentional about treating them like any other student, including in how you'd approach their parents about behavior issues.

Steve

3 months ago

Votes

Unfortunately not all church cultures have an environment where 'silver spoons' are absent. Instead of really 'dogging out' the pastor's kids, I'd approach it from the perspective of "what is the best way to get to" your kids. As their parent, your pastor should have a good grasp on how his child responds to certain leadership styles. Maybe you have yet to find what engages him/her.

Justin ...

3 months ago

Votes

Talk to the pastor.

Do it in a respectful and honest way that is not in public. Tell them that their teens are causing issues, and that attending youth group is a privilege, not a right. Let the pastor know that you want to keep their teens in youth group, but if they are being a barrier to the other teen's spiritual development then their behaviour must change.

Treat them as you would any other parent of teens. There shouldn't be a 'silver spoon' for pastor's kids in any youth ministry. Also, make sure you avoid giving parental advice ("This is what I would do....") type statements if you are not a parent yourself.

BtheYou...

3 months ago

MinistryQuestions.com

Navigational Links

Unanswered Questions

Categories

Top Tags

Resolved Question

Answers

Miscellaneous Navigational Links