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Inappropriate Prom Dresses?
OK - do any of you struggle with girls in your student ministries who wear dresses to prom that they NEVER would show up to church in?!? With facebook to broadcast our every move now, I am seeing more and more of my girls who should know better posting pictures of themselves practically FALLING out of their prom dresses!
Maybe I'm a prude, I don't know. I am really surprised that their parents not only are letting them out of the house half-dressed, but that they're BUYING these dresses for their daughters!
Then, add the facebook factor and now we've got hormone charged boys looking at half-naked girls from our student ministry!
Am I alone, or are there others out there dealing with this?
What do you say to the girls? To their parents?
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Girls class where an adult female explains the reality of guys' eyes. Parent session where you or your pastor or paid speaker talks about teen sexual issues including modesty. |
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Have you ever met with the parents of your group as a whole? You may be able to drop hints if you met with the whole group next year around homecoming and/or prom time and talk about the importance of modesty in a culture and encourages students to bare all. I think we need to start partnering up with parents and helping them see what is going on in the youth culture and how to step up and lead their child. I think many parents are desiring to parent their kids...they're just clueless as how to do it. |
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Have you addressed modesty with the group prior to this? If students don't understand the purpose for modesty in the first place, then they might comply at church because of assumed expectations, not because that's what's on their hearts. Even if you do discuss it with students, if their parents have different standards then they'll more likely go with the parents. It might be a good idea to bring this up with the parents even more so than with the students - not to call out the teens so much as to help the parents navigate what's appropriate and how to address it with their children. We've done multiple sessions on modesty, particularly with the girls. It was also addressed at Revolve when our girls (including my "offenders") went to the conference a couple months ago. |
