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dvdkndy

You know Nate, the thing that we preach and talk about all the time is reconciliation. Chirst taught it very clearly but yet sometimes we say we want to reconcile one another, yet in our human minds we can not let go of what has gone on in the past. Rejoice over the birth of the baby and rejoice in the girls walk with the Lord. I would definitely let your wife and your pastors wife head up the ordeal and let this be a learning lesson to everyone that Christ is still in the changing lives business. Love her, love the baby, and love her. She needs that Godly love and even though it is a touchy situation, let God take care of the others and you do what you know is right. Hope this helps!

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Mike Edens

I agree with most people that there would be no harm in throwing a shower.

My question is this...Is it necessary to throw her a shower to show her you love her and care for her? I think you could show a TON of love and never even have to throw a shower.

I say make sure you love her and make her feel the compassion of Christ; and if that means you have to throw her a shower-then do it. For me, I would make that the last resort way of reaching out to her-not the first.

Answered by Mike Edens 1 year ago

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Pastor Joe

This reminds me of the Parable of the Prodigal Son. (Luke 15) KILL the fatted calf (symbol of festive celebration and rejoicing for someone's long-awaited return) and throw a huge party and celebrate the future and don't get hung up on the past!

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Tim Sch...

I agree with most everyone here. See video.

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dustinsams

Rejoice! New Baby! Yay! New Believer! Yay! Having a baby is not the unforgivable...open arms...provide a nursery, love on her and others like her! good for you guys!

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AmberB

I agree with Soulshaper. It's easy for me to see Jesus celebrating the birth of her child with her and using the moment to talk about new life in both the physical and spiritual sense.
Sadly, this girl will probably have enough people in her life who will never let her forget her mistake, and they'll have the good intentions of trying to do the righteous thing and not condone her wrong. But when we think like that we're thinking of protecting our reputations before her needs. I'd take the risk of people getting upset in order to do what Jesus would do in the situation: love on her and admire how God can take something ugly and broken and make it beautiful and whole. Never pass up those moments!

Answered by AmberB 1 year ago

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Soulshaper

I don't see it as glorifying sin but celebrating God given life. As tricky as it is, just do it. Let your wife or another lady in the group/church throw the party. Use it as a teaching time to talk about redemption, forgiveness and joy.
Unfortunately, you will probably get people mad at you. Talk to your Sr Pastor and see what he thinks, use him as a sounding board. If he doesn't think it is a good idea, try to do it through someone else.
Also, do your best now to make sure there is child care for her at youth services and possibly events.
If anyone disagrees, ask them if they are sinless and to find a stone.

Answered by Soulshaper 1 year ago

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