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Student stopped coming: give it time or approach him about it?
In January we had a wonderful student who had been attending our meetings for a while accept Christ while we were at a Christian concert. He's a good kid who is the only one from his family who comes to our church. However, he's a new Christian, he lives in a non-Christian home, and he has video game addiction that I knew would be hard for him to break. A few weeks ago he stopped attending youth group and I've heard from several youth the reason is because he got a new Xbox and stays home to play that now instead of coming to church.
I don't have a number to reach him at but I know where he lives. Should I stop by sometime & talk with him, or give him some time to become disenchanted with his Xbox and come back on his own?
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- AmberB
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If you feel comfortable, drop by and make contact with him and let him know that he has been missed. Let conviction come from him, you do not need to bring it up. See if he would like to hang out after school some day and you can connect with him even more away from a regular service.
PRAY for him and his new found relationship with CHRIST and also pray that the right friends will get into his life and encourage him! Ask some of our leadership students to try and make contact with him at school.
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Definitely make sure you or SOMEone from the youth ministry gets w/the kid and lets him know he's missed. Remember, though, that it makes a lot more impact if someone who's not paid to do it makes the call. I've always found that when another youth makes the contact (letting him know he is missed) then that's most effective. The next effective would be one of the volunteers; last would be you. Don't let this pass. |
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I would want to check and make sure all the games he was playing were ok. Make sure they work and the controllers worked...The only way to do that is stop by and test them all out!!! |
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Definitely stop by and check on him. You really don't know the positive impact this will have on him and possibly his family as well. |
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Drop by or get one of your student leaders to check in on him. If you don't have a good relationship with the student, stopping by will be weird. I would think you could get his cell number from students or find him on facebook and make contact that way. |
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Definately show up and hang out at the house...visit with parents...etc. Let him know he's missed...that is the biggest thing. |
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If that was my situation I would definitely be all over at his house playing his Xbox with him. I would be finding ways by starting to come over bits of time each week and then gradually asking him to come hang out with you. When you guys decide to leave and go hang out to do errands or go look at new video games at Wal-Mart or anywhere for that matter and while your out show what Christ looks like through you outside of church and his home. Eventually he will probably decide to put down his game addiction. |
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If you feel that it wouldn't be too awkward for you to stop by, I probably would. I agree that you shouldn't bring up the Xbox unless he does, but just show him you care, that you notice he's been gone and that you miss having him around. Maybe take another student with you and the three of you head out for ice cream or something. |
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Give him a call. If it is out the ordinary for him to miss a couple of weeks in a row. Give him a call and see what is going on. Ask him how he is doing. See if he has been sick. Don't bring up the x-box. Just be concerned for him and his relationship with Jesus. |
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my initial thoughts would be... take your time. |
