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Swimsuit Modesty
With summer approaching there are a few trips and events that involve swimming. I know many groups (ours included) will sometimes ask students to wear one-piece or modest swimsuits.
I agree with the principle of modest clothing, and wish the girls in our group would make that choice on their own. But I also feel very legalistic when dictating the type of swimwear they can wear.
I hate the church subculture that treats church events as different from "real life." (e.g. you can watch R-rated movies @ home, but not @ church)
I don't think I'm supposed to be the morality police, but I also don't want to add unnecessary stumbling blocks. Guys will lust after a girl in a turtleneck if they want to, why make special rules for female students?
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I understand very well the dilemma you feel. I tell my girls that they have to wear modest swimwear (tankini,one piece, tank top over the bikini). At first I was met with resistance, but one year later I have actually been approached by two girls who have told me it's a relief when they "have" to dress modestly. I feel its worth enforcing because it benefits the guys and the girls. Sure the guys might lust with a turtleneck, but we know its going to be a lot easier in a bikini. At least you know you did what you could to stack the odds in their favor. For the girls, it communicates that their bodies are special and that their worth is the same fully clothed as it is half naked or more. I think it allows me to be in the world but not of it.
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I am no different at home than I am at church. Students are I am sure, but I too have the one piece modest suit rule, if not put a T on over it. We don't watch ANY movies at church that do not pass the appropriate test. |
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I agree with Chris also, and I think that we're to help disciple the one's God has brought to us and that modesty is a very important part. I'm not saying that dresses and pants should be worn all the time, but in all that we do, say, wear, eat, drink we should do all to the glory of the Lord. |
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all i know is when i was a teen in high school of I saw a chick in a turtle neck and a chick in a bikini I got a whole different feeling going on inside me. You do what you got to do. I guess next summer we can look forward to Sports illustrated's Turtleneck edition since it doesn't matter if they are in a turtleneck or bikini I bet it would sell the same amount of copies. |
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Im really big, like you, on not treating church as different from real life and living a double life, so I totally get where your coming from. I encourage my kids to act the same at youth group as they would at school around their friends. But that doesnt mean I have to accept where they are at. Im going to make it my priority to shape them into being more like they would be at church when they are at school, and so enforcing rules like these isnt a dilemma when it comes to that sort of mindset, at least for me. |
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I agree with Chris. We don't make a big deal about it but do lay down the rules so they all know. If you are up front about it and give them plenty of time, most people won't mind. I have even had girls have to go buy another suit just for our trip since they didn't own a modest one. |
