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Talking with a "gay" student...
Any suggestions for the best way to approach and talk with a student who has recently decided he is gay?
I certainly want to talk with him and speak the truth of Scripture in love, but really don't know where to begin.
He has expressed an interest in talking with one of my youth workers and myself, so the door is open. I want to be honest but desire to keep our communication active.
Any thoughts would be appreciated! Thanks in advance!
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- Mark C
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I would sit down with him and completely set the gay thing aside initially. Find out where he is at spiritually. If there is not a commitment to Christ, there is no foundation in his life to challenge him on. In other words he isn't going to care what the Bible says unless he has bout into it. |
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I agree with Pastor e. Get his view of salvation. Also, explain the dynamics between choice and feeling. Christ didn't feel like going to the cross but because of His love for us,He did it. He has to love Christ enough to resist the temptation to act on his feelings. Often times homosexuality is treated differently than lust, cursing etc. but sin is sin. Just because you feel like punching someone in the face, doesn't mean you do it. Be as simple in your talk with him as possible. He must know that homosexuality is a spirit and the weapons of his warfare are not carnal. But ultimately the standard of the Word cannot be compromised. Hope this helped. |
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Agree with Joe. I don't konw about everyone's view on losing salvation, but I don't believe you can. However, this is what I would focus on the most...is he truly saved. Yeah we mess up and thank God that He is forgiving, but this is a good place to start. Begin with him, what he believes. Don't even mention gay, talk salvation. If his testimony is that he's a christian, see what that means to him. Of course gay is a choice, but contradicts being a christian. hope this helps |
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I think there is a difference between i am a practicing Gay, and I say I am gay. If he is participating in the lifestyle, then he is in sin and needs to repent and believe in Christ! If he is exploring the lifestyle (dabbler) then he needs to know that GOD loves him and he was not born that way, and GOD is bigger than his temptation/strong urge of gay feelings/thoughts/tendencies. 1 Cor. 6:9 list SEVERAL people who will not enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Sin is sin, although sin has different consequences. |
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Scripture, Prayer, and guidance. Man very tough because you have a certain way that you are thinking and a certain view. Leave yourself and your ideas out of the equation and only allow God to be seen. We had a kid in the group we grew up in and the church made it's point clear. To this day, now in his late 20's, he tells me, " I want to go to church and wave my rainbow flag from the pews. The only way I have found this to be sucessful is that you have to build a solid foundation of trust and mentorship. |
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best thing to keep in mind (and communicate if possible): Just because he's gay doesn't mean he's lost his salvation. |
