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suiside and she says she wouldnt ever should i tell someone like the youth pastor or go strait to parents?

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0 Votes It's because of situations like this one that a good rule of thumb is never to promise to keep a young person's secrets. In my experience, a young person who has something to unburden themselves of will generally ask, but not insist on secrecy. So: promise respect, and not to deal lightly with confidences, but make it clear that your main goal is to support, and get the help that the young person needs. You aren't there to contain a difficult situation, but to help them through it. Sometimes that means referring it on to those whose skillset is suited to the specific problems involved. by caughtn... 2 years ago by caughtnottaught 2 years ago
0 Votes Talk to youth pastor first, and then he has no choice but to confront the situation and hopefully in love and concern for the student and then to get the parents involved. As a youth pastor I am not the parent and my desire is to NEVER take that place, I am just a help/counselor/friend/mentor to parents and students by Pastor Joe 2 years ago by Pastor Joe 2 years ago
0 Votes This would definitely be a situation where you tell the pastor and the father, and then stay in close contact with the girl. Fortunately, the ones who talk about suicide aren't statistically at as high a risk as the ones who go through something like loosing a mother and never talk about it. Those are the ones who surprise everyone when they're found dead later. At least this girl is talking about it, which seems to sometimes indicate that she wants someone to help her out of it. by Tim Sch... 2 years ago by Tim Schmoyer 2 years ago
0 Votes The answer is yes and yes...talk of suicide can never be taken lightly. Really no matter the situation you must take this first to the parents and then inform the pastor and youth pastor. by Mark C 2 years ago by Mark C 2 years ago

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It's because of situations like this one that a good rule of thumb is never to promise to keep a young person's secrets.

In my experience, a young person who has something to unburden themselves of will generally ask, but not insist on secrecy.

So: promise respect, and not to deal lightly with confidences, but make it clear that your main goal is to support, and get the help that the young person needs. You aren't there to contain a difficult situation, but to help them through it. Sometimes that means referring it on to those whose skillset is suited to the specific problems involved.

caughtn...

2 years ago

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Talk to youth pastor first, and then he has no choice but to confront the situation and hopefully in love and concern for the student and then to get the parents involved. As a youth pastor I am not the parent and my desire is to NEVER take that place, I am just a help/counselor/friend/mentor to parents and students

Pastor Joe

2 years ago

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This would definitely be a situation where you tell the pastor and the father, and then stay in close contact with the girl.

Fortunately, the ones who talk about suicide aren't statistically at as high a risk as the ones who go through something like loosing a mother and never talk about it. Those are the ones who surprise everyone when they're found dead later. At least this girl is talking about it, which seems to sometimes indicate that she wants someone to help her out of it.

Tim Sch...

2 years ago

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The answer is yes and yes...talk of suicide can never be taken lightly. Really no matter the situation you must take this first to the parents and then inform the pastor and youth pastor.

Mark C

2 years ago

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